Playing It Safe Online - Part 2 - Cedar Valley Saver Inc.

Last time we talked about rules to keep in mind when looking for an online relationship. Now let’s discuss how to proceed should you decide to meet your online friend for a date.

Before you go out with someone new, it is important to get as much information as you can about the person. Proceed with caution. Arrange the meeting on your terms. You be the one to control the circumstances. You set the terms.

1. Always ask for a full name, address, and telephone number before agreeing to go out with someone you have never met. Visit Zabasearch.com to confirm the information.

2. Never go out with someone who will only give you a pager or work phone number. (There is a very good chance of a spouse in the house.)

3. When someone gives his or her phone number, find a reason to call unexpectedly. This may help you to find out if she is married or he is living with someone.

4. Find out where the person works and if you can call him or her at work

Be careful when agreeing to meet anyone in person. Set the conditions for your date and do not let the other person change them. Remember, you really do not know someone until you spend time with them in person.

1. Always tell someone where you are going with your date and when you will return. Leave your date’s full name and telephone numbers with that person and write them down. If your date wants you to keep it secret, this is a big red flag. Protect yourself.

2. Always meet in a public place that you are familiar with on your first date. Stay near other people in a lighted area. Getting together for coffee is a pleasant, casual way to get to know someone.

3. Although you have asked for an address, never allow yourself to be picked up from your house. Giving your address out to a stranger is not safe. Arrange your own transportation so that you can leave if there is any sign of trouble. As I said, control the situation.

4. Pay attention to everything that this person has told you about him or herself. Trust your instincts. If you find out that your date has lied about anything, this not just a red flag. Believe me, nothing good can come from a liar. Run, don’t walk, away.

5. Do not bring your date back to your house after the first meeting. You do not know this person. Use the same kind of common sense and rules that you would use in any type of dating relationship.

Be smart and be safe. Take control of your future. Know what you are getting into before you invest your heart, money, or your life. Information is the key.