I’m a junior in high school who is mature for my age.  The boys in my school are so immature, I have no interest in going with any of them.  They don’t ask me anyway, because the truth is I am way sexier than any other girl at this school, and I think they are kind of afraid of me.  I don’t care about them, I go with  college age guys.  But I DO care about my history teacher.  He is so incredibly hot.  He can’t be any older than 23 or 24, he is so cute and smart and all the girls are crazy about him, but I am pretty sure he doesn’t really notice any of them, except as students.  I know he isn’t married.

I don’t hide from him that I like him, in fact it is fun to flirt with him.  I like to think of reasons to stay in the classroom after the other kids have gone, and ask him something about the assignment, or whatever I can think of.  I stand really close to him, and sometimes brush his arm “accidentally” with my arm, and one time even with my hip.  He seems to get flustered, and turns red and talks fast and gets up and walks away, but I can tell he likes it. In fact, I have noticed him getting physically interested, if you know what I mean.  This is such a turn-on I can’t think of anything else, and I just really want to get closer to him.

I know you are going to tell me he is too old for me, but he’s not.  Besides, I don’t really care if we go out or do anything where other people will see us, so nobody needs to know.  So why not go for it?  Why shouldn’t two people who are attracted to each other go ahead and enjoy it?  If he was married, I could see it would be wrong, but there isn’t anyone to get hurt here.  This is a family paper, so I’ve tried to be kind of subtle, but I think you know what I’m talking about.

Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,

What do you want from me - approval?  Yes, I know what you’re talking about, all right.  You’re talking about indulging yourself in a skanky little off-limits affair, with the fact that it is forbidden probably the main reason why it is such an attractive idea to you.  You say you are so mature, but I think just the opposite is true.  You are not considering the fact that you would be endangering the career of this young man.  I assume, as a junior, you are under age 18.  If he is so foolish as to become intimate with you, even once, he could end up in jail.  But what do you care?  You are only thinking of your selfish pleasure.     

He should tell you to back off himself, but since he has not, I am.  In fact, he should talk to whoever is in immediate authority over him, and tell them how you have been acting, just to protect himself and make it obvious he is not the pursuer, nor does he welcome your dangerous school-girl crush.  Grow up, little girl, and realize that your foolish actions have consequences.